You reap what you sow

Posted by Suman on Jun 13, 2021

You reap what you sow.


Such a noble-sounding and simple adage.

But do humans truly get it?


Perhaps one, perhaps two,

not more than five humans alive as of this moment.


You see, saying something is straightforward.

Living it is a completely different ball game.


This is the reason Twitter is overflowing with accounts

with hundreds of thousands of followers.

Even the most prominent of the accounts,

even those who aren't just copy-pasting,

are only intellectualizing.


They sit with a cup of tea

or a glass of wine in their hands

and deduce - wisdom.


I will say it again

this time speaking directly to such humans.


It is childs' play to deduce wisdom in the name of

"I have arrived" or "I seek the truth".

It is the real deal

to live it.


I will provide an example.

A very personal example.


My parents, who truth be told, are living their last decade,

from the worlds' perspective,

have "done well".

Both of them worked hard throughout their youth.

Both of them are still together, going strong after ~40 years of marriage.

Both, to this day, are reasonably "happy".


But the truth, that they resist every single moment,

and cringe every time I reveal it to them over the phone?

They have both wasted two glorious lives.

And almost wasted mine by

instilling in me - "them".


You must carefully read what was stated.

I am not saying what you think I am saying.


Of course, they are the reason I came to be.

I owe more than my life to them.

I could not, even if I wanted to,

repay even 1/10th of what they gave.

And no, this is not to suggest an alternative of how

else things might have been.


This is simply and only,

directly,

stating the truth.

The truth, not about the relationship between me and them.

But about them.


Everyone will think they have lived a good, productive life.

And therein lies the grave problem.

They have merely lived.

Exactly like the world that deems it a "good life".


But,

while they were living...

were they living the days passing them by one at a time?

were they doing what needed to be done for them?

were they being remotely close to being serious?

They were not.

They had the capacity.

Every other parent reading this does.


But...

They were overliving their "relationship".

They were overliving their children.

They were already living their children's future,

one that had them in it!


Just last week, I was on the phone with my Mother.

As she mentioned one of her concerns regarding some context,

I responded with a straight face -

"You reap what you sow, Mother.

You reap what you sow."

"You are right." - She responded,

acknowledging the truth she kept herself from until that moment,

in that context.


It is a shame, in their final years,

my parents are coming home to what was there all this time.

It is a shame, they will only live it for a few more years.

It is a shame, they had to wait almost all their life to get here.


"You reap what you sow."

My parents...

sowed hope (for me and their future).

sowed need (for me and their future).

sowed fear (for me and their future).

sowed lies (for me and their future).

Today,

their life has not changed in the slightest.

They are still...

living in hope, need, fear, and lies.


"You reap what you sow"

- does not imply you just have to "get it".

Or be able to say - "makes sense".

Or look at your past - think to yourself - "Hmm I have done fairly well"

and then go cater to your next involuntary thought.


"You reap what you sow"

implies something much deeper than that.

It implies something much more profound and stark.

Instead of getting to the nitty-gritty of what it implies,

I will leave you with its simple version...


"You reap what you sow"

The unserious person will apply it to

the life that he thinks he has lived

or the life he thinks he will live.

The unserious person "understands" what it means,

or unconsciously stores it in the reservoir of his "knowledge".


The serious person understands something else.

Because his past or his future does not even exist.

The serious person reaps every moment

what he sowed the moment before.


"You reap what you sow"

The serious person has no use for this statement.

The serious person lives the statement.

(And any and all adages for that matter.)


Thank you.